Hi people, why is so difficult to find the right man at my age 55? i am attractive,fun loving, intelligent,?

Hi people, I am divorced for many years, i did not want to bring anyone into my life at the as i wanted to concentrate on my children, making a good living for them and of course my own healing too. Now they are adults and doing their own thing, i have a nice social life but I just realised that although i am not by any means lonely, it would be nice to meet a nice gentleman that would be in the situation that i am and what to meet a well eduacated,attractive, fun-loving, loyal lady of 55 years old for friendship and take it from there. Well what i thought it would be a normal and and easy thing to achived, i am finding it so horrible, met a few men that or they just wanted one night stand,were married or with other hidden agendas. I am not in any hurry and ( better alone an happy that with the wrong man) but when i say friendship i mean it as in platonic and see how it goes( i also i am finding out to my surprise that now a days is not understood as it used to be( most of the men i met when i mentioned friendship they were thinking in the way of shag friends/shag buddies, which totally different of what friendship means to me. My question here to anyone that have the guts or time to ready this is: how on 55 years lady goes about to meet someone as a friend( platonic) and take i from there? thanks for any replies in advance. I guess i have lots to learn about who thigs work these days.